The article speaks to the views of an ally on her understanding and experience of homophobia, with some personal reflections on how it may affect our community. We all have stories about explicit and implicit discrimination it is our lived experience. Nevertheless, how have we handled these occasion, may be not at the time, how do we seek to reconcile the fear, words and results of physical assault. At one, level which hurts the most in example those omissions of any consideration, insensitive comments, or verbal abuse? Another physical assault when the bruises and welts have faded, blood clotted, fear dulled, abrasions and wounds healed, and bones knitted. What is left for you after these kinds of events, a living breathing person with feels and emotions, a human being, who has to face every day with fear and doubt, in not knowing how you will be discriminated against next.
Before we can venture forward, sometimes we have to heal and this discrimination can fortify our resolve to seek justice. There seems to be no set answer however, we need to reach out to ask for help and seek support. In either personal healing because of the trauma, there is no shame in that because our greatest duty is always to our self before anything. Alternately, in standing up and demanding justice may be a part of the healing by building our support networks, gathering resources and enlisting allies. It is the latter we tend not to readily consider, like our family, friends, community and our straight allies, it may be because we are hurt and become defensive. This seems very important that we access all the resources and supports we can because of our political standing as people on the margin.
Where our detractors promote social uniformity as a norm, we need to normalise social diversity. Where some obstruct us politically, we need to reach out and enlist allies and develop our own political networks. We are the rainbow nation bound by cultural and political ties, charged with defending and promoting our people’s rights.