We are talking about heterosexual men who have sex with other men we are not talking about Gay, Bisexual or closeted men. Joe Kort a psychotherapist compiled the list below in an attempt to identify the many reasons heterosexual men have sex with other men, it is included here purely for your consideration on this topic. However, it is a limited consideration because its’ clinical focus, it seemingly pathologies sexuality. It seemingly assumes that if a man engages in a sexual activity otherwise inconsistent with his expressed sexual orientation , this is somehow deviant requiring clinical intervention. My concern being a denial of human sexual diversity and that the individual has to remain confined to a set of acknowledge behaviours consistent with certain labels. Admittedly, if the man finds his own behaviour problematic and seeks change then this clinical approach may be appropriate.
Whatever the reason be respectful of you and others, forget the guilt and play safe
- Sexual Abuse
- Homosexual Imprinting
- Men who are sex workers/male escorts –
- Sex for Money
- Men seeking intensely arousing but shameful experiences – the forbidden fruit
- First Sexual Experience
- High Sex Drive – any hole will do
- Availability/Opportunity – boys will be boys
- Father Hunger
- Narcissism –
- Sexual Addiction
- Sex in Prison
- BDSM (Bondage and Discipline, Sadism & Masochism)
- Homosexual Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
by Joe Kort, MSW copyright 2004
Do we need to redefine masculinity?
What does this mean for men who identify as Gay?
What does this mean for closeted men?
Why do we medicalize human diversity?
When do we embrace sexual diviersity?