I love the article Mr Comer speaks his mind on the need for celebrities in our community to make some kind of public confession on their identity. The article refers to Adam Lambert American Idol runner-up declaration that he is gay and son of Icon Cher, Chaz Bono community rights activist undergoing gender or really sex reassignment. The author raises the question why do these celebrities and others need to make such public statements on private matters. His wish
“We lived in a world where Lambert and Bono would not feel that they had to disclose such intimate details about themselves. …they could take their sexuality for granted just as most of us straight people do…”
I note Mr Comer’s need to make his own gender identity clear several times in the article of being a heterosexual man, I wonder why. However, the target for his scorn is the media, which he is also a member of, he goes on to say
“It would be ridiculous if every straight celebrity felt they had to proclaim his or her desire for the opposite sex, so why should famous gay people feel forced to have to announce their preference?”
I simply refer back to his mention of “us straight people” and being the partner of pop star Katy Perry. While the intent of a call for an egalitarian observation of gender rights the execution was a little untidy. In his defence, he quotes Dr King’s legendary October 1963 “I Have a Dream” speech at the Lincoln Memorial in Washington, D.C. when he declared
“I have a dream that my four little children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the colour of their skin but by the content of their character.”
Mr Comer goes on to say that the “same respect must absolutely be afforded to those among us who are gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender . . .it’s character that counts…”
This later does not escape me as Mrs King put it
“I don’t believe you can stand for freedom for one group of people and deny it to others”… “I have worked too long and hard against segregated public accommodations to end up segregating my moral concern.”
I am heartened by the work of people like Kevin Jennings (Gay Lesbian Straight Education Network founder and executive director) and currently Obama education appointee. This entry focuses on comments made by Mr Jennings at GLSEN’s Mid-Atlantic conference, held October 25, 1997. It speaks to a wide held view among our detractors that we actively recruit people to become gay, otherwise known as the gay agenda. The spectre of McCarthyism figures highly in my thoughts on this view, it is 2009 our kids deserve better than to suffer under the hysteria of 1950’s bigotry. GLSEN gives them that chance to be who they are and find respect and acceptance in the communities they live.
Challenging gender stereotypes & why can’t we accept masculine diversity
I could go into a rant about heterosexism & how media simply reflects institutional stereotypes. However, it maybe better for you to answer these questions yourself because we all discriminate against others for different reasons many I don’t understand. Some I actively campaign against in doing so I have found the most affective way is to ask the WHY question.
Why did you say that?
Why did you respond in that way?
Always question what is and ask why?
“there’s a difference between honest disagreement and attempting to debate with someone who is coming from a place of hate or disrespect or misinformation.”
There is a difference why get into a debate with someone whose position is ” …is coming from a place of hate or disrespect or misinformation.” This seems to be our greatest weakness we come out swinging when ever offended does the gay civil rights movement need to under take anger management training. Why do we seek to mount an eternal defence rather than seeking to counter ignorance with an offence driven through education. What do we have to prove to our enemies who deny our right very existence as some abnormality of their world. It takes discipline, do we have that or are we still under the belief that by using the enemies tactics we can gain some credibility.
or is the pain of rejection some of us have experienced and have never adjusted to as a reality of life
Whom do we want to share our message? This opinion does little to achieve the goal of raising awareness or grabbing the ear of any potential allies. However, it is another example of hypercritical manipulation of half-truths and emotive rhetoric hurriedly cobbled together as a public response to the ignorance of a perceived enemy. The opinion speaks only to the converted as our enemy does not see our views as valid and those holding neutral positions would simply dismiss it as a weak argument. In seeking support for the causes, we hold close our argument has to be strong and grounded in objectivity, yes easier said than done. In clarifying I do not support Robinson’s ignorance, however when we need to use parenting penguins to support our position it is simply sad.
Questions you need to ask.
What is the difference between being Gay and homosexual?
Why do we rayl at the enemy, when their minds are closed?
Whom do we want to really speak to?
What is our message or messages?
What is the most effective and affective way to deliver the message?
Being Gay has nothing to do with homosexuality!
Sometimes people who have been sexually abused may get the two mixed up because of their trauma
Tank Man – social action – Tiananmen Square Massacre 4 June 1989
The old cliché stands pictures speak louder than word, all it takes is for you to stand for what you believe in when it counts. It is this passion that many of us have never discovered or lost under the burden of daily life. How can you regain or find this zeal for issues that affect you, by simply asking questions and in taking a stand. While some claim the tag of keeping politicians and others honest, you can also in three easy steps.
Be critical – objective – who, what, where, when, how and why then give an informed opinion
Fact check – everybody has an agenda and even if you support the view
Open your mind – question everything even your own opinion
Because it is in the popular media doesn’t mean it is either a fact or unbiased
Did he misspeak or was his comments really both a reflection of church policy or personal commentary. The later could be disputed however the pope has made similar comments previously, is this just another case of political misspeak.
What is the churches position on gay and transsexual people without the double Dutch of it not being a sin as long as you don’t have sex or challenge gender (social construct) identity in any form.